From the outside, it looks like you're killing it. So why does something feel off?
Nine honest questions. A picture of what's actually going on underneath, in plain words. No labels, no diagnosis, nothing to buy.
UCLA-trained psychologist. Bestselling author of Unhooked.
Nothing is obviously wrong. That's exactly why it's so hard to talk about.
Most people who take this aren't in crisis. They're successful, holding it together, and carrying something they haven't said out loud. Pick the one that lands first, and the audit starts there.
The thing you reach for was never the problem. It's the clue.
When life gets heavy, you lean on something. A drink to take the edge off. Work you can bury yourself in. A screen, a purchase, another person's attention. You've probably treated it like a discipline problem, and tried to stop it with more willpower.
Here's what twenty years of research and a few thousand clients taught me: that behavior is doing a job for you. It started as a way to handle something that was already there, and it worked, which is the whole reason it stuck. Fighting the behavior without finding the job it does is bailing water out of a boat without finding the hole.
The audit doesn't ask you to stop anything. It asks nine honest questions and hands you back a clear picture: where life feels off, what you lean on when it does, what it's quietly costing you, and the fact that there's something specific and findable underneath. Recognition is the first move. Most people have never had it.
If you've tried to change before and slid back, that wasn't a character flaw. It was the predictable result of fixing the wrong thing.
Three things, in the next few minutes. Free.
- Your honest picture, on screenA written read of your answers that names your actual behavior back to you, in plain language. No scores, no labels, no jargon.
- The deeper version, in your inboxA longer read written for exactly what you told me, plus what to do with it. Personal, and never shared with anyone.
- The first chapter of UnhookedThe bestselling book on the patterns underneath the things we can't stop doing. The fastest way to start finding what's under yours.
HOOKEDFree yourself
from the patterns
that run your life
I'm the expert who missed his own hook.
The day the SWAT team came to my apartment, I weighed 124 pounds. I had a graduate degree in neuroscience, and I was using methamphetamine. I knew, scientifically knew, what was happening to my brain. And I couldn't stop.
That gap, between knowing and doing, is what I've spent the last twenty years studying. I earned my PhD at UCLA, taught there, published the research, and built a treatment company. And a few years ago, while running that company and commuting two hours a day, I was quietly drinking more than I should. My wife said one sentence: "You've been drinking more than usual." She was right. I'd dressed a year of escalation up as developing a taste for good bourbon.
When I traced it back, the hook wasn't really the alcohol. It was an old script that being busy meant being worthy. The drinking was just taking the edge off a life I'd overbuilt to prove something.
I built this audit to give you, in sixty seconds, the honest look it took me a year to have. It's the same machinery. It's findable. And once you can see it, it becomes something you can actually change.
Praise for Unhooked
"I was 'hooked' on this book after a single sentence. Adi Jaffe is a masterful storyteller, which makes his deep research and clinical wisdom even more of a pleasure to read. Unhooked is going to help a lot of people heal."
Elisabeth LeamyFormer Good Morning America consumer correspondent"A raw, revolutionary take that challenges everything we know about change. A no-BS shot of real hope for anyone looking to break free and take control of their life."
John Kim, LMFTBestselling author of I Used To Be a Miserable F*ck"Finally, a powerful book that looks at the deeper cause, while providing a different approach and real solutions. A must-read."
John AssarafNew York Times bestselling author of The Answer"Adi doesn't just offer another tired model. He opens the door to a completely new way of thinking, rooted in understanding the emotional hooks that keep us trapped. A game-changer for personal transformation."
Aggie LalBestselling author of Biohack Like a WomanSixty seconds, three steps, and a picture you can't get anywhere else.
Questions people ask first
Is this about addiction?
Who sees my answers?
What happens after I finish?
How long does it take?
Is this therapy or medical advice?
Find out what's underneath. It takes a minute.
Nine honest questions. A picture in plain words. The first chapter of Unhooked, free. Private, and yours.