Couples — Dr. Adi Jaffe

If any of this is familiar

You're not the first couple in this room.

Adi has worked with couples through every version of this. The specifics differ. The underlying patterns almost never do.

The slow drift

You don't fight anymore. That's not the good news you hoped it would be. You're sharing a calendar and a roof — and almost nothing else.

One partner's habit

The drinking, the work compulsion, the secret behaviors — whatever it is, it stopped being one person's issue a long time ago. It's the whole house's weather.

The post-success crisis

The exit happened. The career took off. Suddenly the marriage that survived the climb can't find its footing in the new altitude.

The standard therapy loop

You've done couples therapy. Maybe several rounds. You leave each session more articulate about the same patterns — and no closer to breaking them.

The "should we stay together"

Neither of you can say it out loud. Both of you are thinking it. The question deserves an answer arrived at deliberately — not by drift.

The post-divorce rebuild

The marriage ended. The patterns that broke it are still running. You want what's next to look genuinely different.

Why couples work is different

Two nervous systems. One pattern.

What makes couples work hard is that you don't have one set of behavioral loops. You have two — locked into a shared feedback cycle. Most therapy works on each person's loop in isolation. Adi's work targets the cycle itself.

The trap

Each of you is protecting the loop you know.

The patterns that brought you together still feel safer than the unknown. So you keep recreating the same dynamic — and calling it commitment, or compromise, or "just how we are."

The opening

SPARO works on a system, not just a self.

The SPARO framework maps individual loops and the way they entangle. You don't just learn yours. You see the system. That's the first thing that actually has to change.

The approach

Decade in 90 Days — Couples Track

Intensive. Confidential. Built around the two of you and the actual pressure points in your shared life. Not weekly 50-minute sessions — a real reset.

01 — MAP

The shared loop

We map each partner's individual SPARO pattern and the cycle they create together. Most couples have never seen their dynamic this clearly. Just the seeing changes things.

02 — INTERRUPT

Joint EAT practice

You learn the EAT cycle of transformation together — so you can interrupt the pattern in real time, when it actually counts. Not in the therapy office. At dinner. In the car. After the call from your kid's school.

03 — REBUILD

The relationship you'd choose

Ninety days of intensive work to install a new shared pattern. The outcome isn't "communication tools." It's a relationship that actually feels different to live inside.

What's included

Built around the life you actually share.

Intensive 90-day engagement for both partnersJoint sessions, individual sessions, and integration work designed to compress what most couples spend years circling.
Direct access to Adi for both of youYou work with Adi himself. Not a junior associate. The same expert UHNW families have trusted for two decades.
On-location intensives when neededPrivate retreats, multi-day immersives, or integration into your existing rhythm — the work flexes around your life.
Total discretionNDA-protected from the first call. Most of Adi's couples are recognizable names. Privacy is the baseline.
Addiction-informed when relevantIf one partner is navigating addictive patterns — drinking, sex, work, food — the engagement integrates the Unhooked Method directly.
Optional family integrationWhen children, in-laws, or business partners are part of the system, the engagement can scope to include them.

Common questions

What couples ask before applying.

We've done couples therapy. Why would this be different?

Most couples therapy operates inside the existing pattern — helping you communicate about it more skillfully. Adi's work targets the pattern itself: the shared behavioral loop you've built and keep reinforcing. SPARO and EAT are behavioral science frameworks designed to actually interrupt loops, not just describe them.

One of us is more committed than the other. Should we still apply?

Yes — apply. The discovery call is built to surface exactly this. Sometimes the right answer is starting with the more-committed partner individually and integrating the other later. Sometimes the right answer is doing the work to find out whether continuing the relationship is the right move at all. Adi will help you see clearly before you commit.

Is this for couples post-divorce, too?

Yes. A meaningful portion of Adi's couples work is post-divorce — either rebuilding a co-parenting dynamic, processing what actually happened, or doing the personal work that lets the next relationship be different. Greg Francis's testimonial above is from a post-divorce engagement.

What if one partner's addiction is the main issue?

Adi has spent his entire career on this exact intersection. If one partner is navigating addictive patterns and it's affecting the relationship, the couples track integrates the Unhooked Method directly. You don't have to choose between addressing the addiction and addressing the marriage.

What does it cost?

By application. Investment is discussed on the discovery call once we understand scope, location, and intensity. Couples engagements vary based on whether the work is purely joint or includes individual streams for each partner.

When one person's struggle becomes both people's prison.